The Regurgitation of Emotive Illustrations

BIMBO BITCHES.

be it societal stigma, discrimination or stereotype.

all these narrowed perspectives are the crux to the derived social problem (which is extremely rampant among adolescents in schools nowadays) called bullying.

first of all, i am very upset regarding this issue. i'd always been aware of such psychological taunts and physical torment in schools. however, i'd failed to realize that there are actually a few victims in singapore whom had turned to death as a release from their painful sufferings.

we've all been to school and i feel that i can safely assume that most of us have encountered such incidents before irregardless of us being victims, perpetrators or simply bystanders. no matter what roles we were assuming, i believe that most of us had felt the dejection from being rejected from other people before.

imagine yourself being subjected to such rejection for almost every other day in school. can you imagine how distraughted these children feel? i feel that it doesn't matter whether if they are victims or simply just incapable of socializing, these children DO NOT deserve to go through such traumas.

here's an excerpt from the new paper on sunday 'driven to death' article:

the new paper on sunday was given a peek into susan's (not her real name) diary, where she would give an account of what happened in school every day. the entries are heartbreaking and, in the light of her death, chilling.

on the 1 oct entry, for example, susan recounted how a classmate had told her if she "want to die, go die". she also recorded that one of the staff members in her school had called her a loner, which she interpreted as being someone who did not contribute to society and was a pest.

her disturbed father said, "the teacher had wrongly assessed her as a loner. i know my daughter well. i know that she was quiet in class because she didn't want to get bullied."

according to him, susan was a quiet and diligent girl who came from a neighbourhood school. she was a slim and fierce child who took things seriously and seldom voiced her concerns. she was the only daughter, and had two younger brothers that she had doted on and tutored. a results slip showed that she had good academic results and had even come in 1st in class for her sec 4 mid-terms exams.

"my daughter was a good student, but she was sensitive to people's comments. when she did well in her exams, a few students would ask her, 'why study so hard? what’s the point?' a few classmates even asked her to kill herself," claimed mr lee.

in Susan's diary, she wrote that her classmate had first asked her to kill herself when she was in sec 2. mr lee confirmed this, saying that problems started when his daughter had joined the school's military band in sec 1 and was promoted to a sergeant the following year.

he claimed, "through letters she and her friends had exchanged in sec 2, i could tell there were a lot of jealousy, gossip and politics going around. it was at this time when my daughter told me she was being bullied, and i can tell from the letters she received there were nasty comments. she had wanted to change school as well, but we had not done so in the end."

susan was so affected that for a school project in sec 3, she wrote a long and melancholic poem. it included lines such as "she couldn't understand the hate everyone felt towards her, couldn't anyone see she just didn't want to be left alone?" and "everyone stared at her like there's something so terribly wrong."

the chilling finale suggested her first thoughts of suicide: "cry not for her death, for she has no regrets. weep not for her soul, for she is in a better place."

such beautiful poem but it's such a pity that this girl has been driven to death by her very own schoolmates. this girl could have a promising future but what she lacked was the skill to cope with such peer pressure.

what i feel is that in school, teachers should play a more active role in identifying students with the incapability to express themselves well to people. counselling may not be as effective because i feel that it would be better if the teachers established friendship with these less-active children instead. by establishing friendship, the children can slowly open up to their teacher more easily and in turn be able to speak out whenever they felt ostracised by their fellow schoolmates.

what the parents can do at home is that to communicate more often with their children. ultimately bonds are built through the many conversations that allow each of us to understand each other more. with growing understanding, there will inevitably be stronger bonds! parents nowadays are too busy dealing with work and have in the course neglected their children. they spent hours on their job to perform up the standard. same goes to their children, they've got to spent time in order to perform their roles as parents up to standard!

susan reminds me of my sister. my sister is in the best class of the special stream in her school. she is very diligent in her schoolwork and topping the school is nothing shocking to hear. however, there was once she told me that her classmates were teasing her very often. i've asked her about what they teased her about and i was quite surprised and in fact a little angered with how these children actually thinks nowadays.

my sister's classmates laugh about the brand of the foolscap paper she used! they said that the brand she used was lousier and inferior compared to what they were using. i found it very ridiculous and wanted my sister to rebut to their accusations. however, i'm actually quite glad that my sister told me that she didn't really bother about it because she found it really stupid to be affected by such childish comments. (sigh in relief.)

i've actually told my sister to tell me if people bullied her and that she should not resort to committing suicide as a solution to the problem. she just gave me a 'deow' face.

as i was saying about being angered with how these children thinks nowadays. why on earth did they even scrutinise the quality of their friend's foolscap paper?! it's not like they will be keeping their notes or homework until they graduate from the highest form of education they might be receiving in the near future. it's scary that children at such a young age already have such materialistic stereotyping mentality. it's like they are nymphs of the future bimbo bitches, for example, paris hilton (only that she bitches without speaking.) but what are these children when they grow up? oh my, i foresee a bunch of skeletal looking females dressed in skimpy branded cloths who bitches about the others who do not resemble like their cohort. ugh now that's disgusting.

i think all of us should blame their f-grade parents whom had dutifully imparted their NEED of attaining luxurious lifestyle to these pitiful little imps as a way of life. it's unfortunate that these parents slogged so hard to provide their children with excellent living conditions but only to educate them with the destructive perspectives of discrimination, stereotyping and stigmatisation.

seriously, i feel that something have to be done really quickly with regard to such mentality that some children actually possess. in the present and future, it's undoubtedly that we should all move towards a more open society with minimal stigmatisation mentality. if we really want to become a civilised and well-educated society, we should really do off with the discriminated perspectives that we study issues with.

maybe then, many issues could be solved

instantly.

*i hereby would like to thank ms owyong ru-jun and the new paper on sunday for letting me post an excerpt of the article 'driven to death'.